INTIMACY
Many of us believe nowadays intimacy is about two people commit and love each other. Well, it is not wrong for this concept as intimacy will lead to marriage, having children (in the case of straight couples), sharing love and thoughts etc.
However, if we really broaden our thoughts for intimacy, we can achieve intimacy with many kinds of people. With colleagues, family members, friends, acquaitances etc. Well, many of you may not agree with me, but I do agree with what have been written in "The Art of Happiness" by Dalai Lama. He defined intimacy as more towards sharing of passions, happiness and problems with each other.
It was common (though not all) that single people (those without partners) felt lonely because they feel they are lack of intimacy. Loneliness being created when we feel that we can't share our love with other people. But loneliness can be totally be avoided as intimacy can be created with people around us. Probably most people don't aware of this.
I had been single since I broke up with my first ex, which was 9 years back. For almost 5 years, I was in search of intimate relationship, well, in this era we referred it to steady partners. I felt lonely at that time, but now I do realise that I was very wrong, as I didn't appreciate the "intimacy" that I had developed with people around me. I chose to ignore the importance of friendship as I was too desperate to search for partner.
I did found one 4 years back in Bangkok. A lot people said I am crazy having a bf 1600km away from me, most of them thought I could be lonely here. But thanks to the book I have read, with intimacy can be created with just anyone, and I won't feel lonely anymore. As Dalai Lama said, intimacy is not just about having sexual relationship, and intimacy can be created through other means of appreciations, caring, hope and love. I am totally agree with him.
Life will never be lonely and stressful if we define and look things at a different angle. Yet, it's another good example how our perceptions and thoughts greatly influnce our life :)
posted by Bryan @ 9:18 AM
5 Comments:
Haiya... yours only 1800km away only. Look at mine! Can earn so much milleage points! So don't complain. But at least I'm not lonely.
well said
Hmmm.... this resonates to my resolution to be single with friends and family.
I agree although it is hard when u feel that way....it is sometimes very difficult to change our perception of things when the reality is so harsh and cruel....we are, after all,....only human.
hafiz hector: yeah, great to fly to shanghai with boeing 777, equipped with video on demand. Ha ha...
k: Thanks
harvey: There's a lot of things needed to be learnt in life, and I guess u r just starting to take this journey.
hcpen: It's never difficult to change. Our perception is controlled by our mind. Discover the power within each of us, and you will be more positive and enjoy life. I can't describe everything in here, but I will continue to post. What I am giving you here is not just taken from books, but they were my real life experience. I always ask this challenging question to ppl saying that they couldn't do... IF I CAN DO IT, WHY NOT YOU? :)
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