What is Love?

Most of us were in love before and I believe most of us have their own partner or even partners in life. I can sense that few were happy, few were so so and many may encounter problems with their partner. In love-themed movies, when there is a misunderstanding or failure in relationship, he/she will ask "What is love?" "Is love suppose to bring happiness rather than suffering?"

Well, I don't claim that I am a spiritual teachers or expert in love. At least I have been through many ups and downs in relationship in the past. Probably more downs than ups. Now, this post is entirely my very own experience in dealing with relationship.

Love should be not be measured quantitatively, for love is a deep feeling inside us. Why most people just love to measure love, most probably because of self-ego. You may heard your partner or even you yourself asked "How much you love me?" "Why you spend much of your time with your work... or friends .. or blah blah blah?" Or in triangle relationship "Why you treat him/her better than me?"

Ego is being created by our mind, as we think too much. We want someone to give us priority. We want our partner to know that we "own" them and thus, we can demand this and that. In fact, these are all ego, and in long term it'll do harm to ourselves.

When we feel deep inside ourselves, we will only realise that love is all about qualitative. Your partner may be busy with his work, friends etc, but does that mean he/she doesn't love you anymore? Or in triangle relationship, if your partner spend some time with his other partner, does that mean he didn't care about you?

Well, try this exercise. Those questions that I posted above, try to think with your brain and listen to what your brain said. It will give you a lot of negative impression. Probably it will says "Yeah, he doesn't love me anymore" "Hmmm.. his work is more important than me"

Now, try to feel with your heart. Search the answer deep inside your heart by closing your eyes and focusing on ur breathing. You will get the entirely different picture. You can feel the strength of love presence in you and him. You will realise that love is sacred, and you will appreciate it more.

Thus, when you have problems with your partners, seek the answer from your heart and not from your mind. You will get positive and clear picture, and not least peace and calmness.

Remember, love will never turn to hate overnight in a short period of time. Only our self-ego will destroy our love. True love will exist no matter what happened. Even you will still love your ex as a human being (as I posted about intimacy before).

After reading this post, many people may said "It's easier said than done". But in reality, if you don't try it, how do you know it won't works? Again, I can do it, and why not you?

Love is a gift to all human beings. Don't destroy it with our own self-ego.


(P/S: I will post some examples about relationships next)